What Do I Say (Re-Release)

In this heartfelt and at times laugh-through-the-tears episode, hosts Dionne and Yvette tackle one of the most universal struggles surrounding loss: knowing what to say to someone who is grieving — and what to do when the words just won't come.

With big hoop energy and open hearts, the sisters in grief walk through the well-meaning but wounding things people actually said to them in their lowest moments. "At least you have other children." "God needed another angel." "Time heals all wounds." "How are you doing with your guilt?" — asked by a stranger in the receiving line at a funeral. Dionne and Yvette unpack why these phrases land so wrong: they minimize the pain, rush the healing, and come from the head instead of the heart.

But this isn't an episode about shaming anyone. It's an episode about empathy — about meeting a griever where they are, not where you are. Together, Dionne and Yvette offer the language and the actions that actually bring comfort: "May their memory be a blessing." "I don't have the words, but I'm here for you." A hug, a held hand, and the simple truth, "I'm right here with you." They remind us that showing up doesn't have to cost a thing — fold the laundry, bring the garlic rice, wash the dishes, do the labor — and that the very worst thing you can do is disappear. Don't ghost a griever.

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